Blog: It's never too late to make friends

The International Day of Friendship has been marked by the United Nations on July 30 since 2011.  A UN Resolution for the first Day spoke of promoting the “relevance and importance of friendship as a noble and valuable sentiment in the lives of human beings around the world.” 

That value couldn’t be clearer than in Okinawa, Japan.  Older people there live extraordinary good long lives.  One reason why is the tradition of ‘moai’.  Groups of about five young children brought together and encouraged to make a friendship commitment for life.  Moai groups are like second families – they meet, share with, and support each regularly.  Some have lasted over 90 years.

It’s never too late to cultivate a supportive friend group – to make your own moai.  You could:

Join a group or class based on something you love, or volunteer for something you care about.  The Age Scotland helpline can tell you about local clubs and groups.  For instance, U3A is a network of locally run interest groups where people get together to learn for fun.  Volunteering opportunities are advertised online and in local community spaces.  In Frome, Somerset, a town-wide drive to connect people with such community opportunities led to a 17% reduction in NHS emergency admissions.
Chance conversation with someone you don’t know.  Research by psychologists has found that while we often feel awkward doing this, it is likely to leave both you and them happier.
Reconnect with someone you’ve lost touch with.  Is there a person from your past in whose company you felt comfortable?  Did spending time with them leave you feeling energized and happy?  Did they listen to and respect you? If yes, what’s stopping you phoning, writing to, or messaging them online?